!animalposters there are bugs

!grillers !boozers I had some 6.8% beers

!thin git fit or get hit

!besties I wanted to share this with you!

!tops I topped a giant peepee rock

I heard they are LOUD but I've seen videos on their sound and they dont seem to be THAT loud. Any !codecels or !g*mers

I torn between this and this

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Previously, I had declared my feelings of affection to a female friend of mine (let's just call her Sarah because her name is Sarah). The feelings were not reciprocated, but she let me down in a weird way, she spoke about how she doesn't know how she feels, but she's not looking for a relationship at the moment. She embraces the asexuality meme which is partially how we ended up being friends.

More recently, I decided to give it another shot but to be more tactful this time. I told her I don't think I'm asexual anymore, and that I want to be in a relationship. Once again, she reiterated that she doesn't know how she feels and that a relationship isn't what she wants. Nevertheless, as always, she was nice about it and continues to actively pursue my friendship and constantly tells me she loves me.

At first, this confused me. However, I think I have some of it figured out. I have learned a bit about women and human relationships in general from this experience, and I'd like to share some of the reasons why it's almost certainly a bad idea to pursue your female friends. Now, of course there will be exceptions. Sometimes your female friend genuinely does like you and you'll have a romcom moment. My point is that that's probably not the case, and while you may view the friendship with rose-tinted glasses, she sees things totally differently.

1. They're used to it

Since they started developing breasts, women have been the center of sexual attention. It comes from all angles including older men, teachers, family members, and even other women. At some point, they get used to it and it becomes background noise. "Yes, he's ogling my breasts but I need to finish scanning my groceries".

The sexual attention also comes from male friends. You're NOT the first male friend to express romantic emotions, and you won't be the last. She's turned all of them down, what makes you think things will be different with you? She's used to it, she probably saw it coming, and she doesn't want it. If she did, you wouldn't have to ask because she'd make it obvious to you that she's romantically interested.

Now, there is the possibility of misreading signals, which brings us to the next point.

2. Women genuinely have platonic feelings

This is not to say that men are incapable of having platonic relationships. Nay, that is not my point. My argument is that it is much harder for men to do so. People shit on Steve Harvey but he was 100% correct when he said the following:

Things aren't the same with women. They can genuinely love you deeply without any sexual or romantic feelings. Why is this? Women don't have to deal with the famine mentality. For many men, s*x and love are scarce resources, so when it even vaguely seems like there's an opportunity for it, the feelings come on strong. Hence the cliche of "the cashier smiled at me now I want to marry her". (Most) women aren't leading you on intentionally when they allow intimacy into a friendship. That's the way friendships should be. But it doesn't mean she wants anything sexual or romantic.

3. You're in love because you're lonely

This is probably the crux of the issue. When you're starving, even a mud pie looks delicious. As men, you will face long stretches of loneliness and never being told you're beautiful, attractive, or worthy of anything. Inasmuch as catcalling and sexual objectification should be chastised, it at least serves as some kind of validation of one's attractiveness.

A friendship with a woman can bring about those feelings of validation within men and if you're not ready for it, it's going to develop into obsessive love. If you had higher self-esteem, more experience with women, or a source of love, your friendships with women would be completely normal and platonic. It's when these elements are missing that any smile, hug, or eye-gaze turns into fantasies of marriage.

When she inevitably turns you down, what are you left with? Nothing yet again. Nobody to say they love you or assure you that you are wanted in this world.

Things get more complicated if you're an introvert. Most relationships seem useless unless you're benefitting considerably. In your mind the thinking is "I'd only put this much effort into a relationship if I had romantic feelings". Whereas if the woman is an extrovert, it isn't costing her much mental energy to maintain the relationship. I hope that make sense.

4. She knows already

Don't bother. She already knows you like her. She accepts that as part of the cost of the friendship. That's not a bad thing. It means there's something good about you that she wants in her life even if its not of the romantic nature. You should be flattered by this even if it is heartbreaking at times.

Some women are a bit mean with this. They essentially get everything they would get from a boyfriend (someone to talk to, someone to take care of them) without the need to commit. But that's not always the case. In my case, Sarah goes out her way to be nice to me and to spend time with me. She's not using me for anything - a genuine, platonic friendship is all she wants. It's hard for my brain to wrap my head around it. I thought it was obvious that she felt something. Maybe I had to take the lead and break the ice? Nah, I'm convinced she knew ages ago I liked her but loved me enough to still be my friend despite not sharing romantic feelings.

5. You may lose everything

Life is about taking risks so I don't want to stress this point too much. However, if she doesn't already know and you spring it up on her, she may never trust you again and you will lose all the intimacy of your friendship. She will remain guarded around you, and perhaps even think of you as a slimy coomer who tried to use friendship to get into her pants. Shit can get brutal.

I've been lucky to have an understanding friends who has continued to be nice to me. I know that this isn't the case for everyone, and it also depends on how you respond to the rejection.

CONCLUSION

Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings to experience. It's like a knife constantly twisting in your chest. But it's part of life for most of us. A lucky few will find high-school sweethearts and never have to play the dating game, but for most of us, we're going to get rekt a couple times before we find the right one (if we ever do). Please, for the love of god, don't go looking for a girlfriend from your female friends. There's a difference between a girl friend and a girlfriend.

I'm probably preaching to the choir, and this may be obvious to most people here. But I know there are some autists who may need to read this to spare themselves the heartache I went through. The funny part is that if you're in love, nothing I write is going to change anything. You'll think your case is different. You'll try your luck. And you'll get rekt. But don't let me stop you. Some mistakes are meant to be made.

I know the asexuality meme isn't true. One day, she'll find a guy she likes (not me) and all that asexuality shit will disappear. And when it happens it will hurt like heck. However, I'm prepared, and I'll still be her friend. I'm wiser now thanks to the mistakes I've made. Thanks for reading.

Ladies, now that I have your attention: dm me

The bad news is that I am still a fat frick.

The good news is that I can now fast for 48 hours at a time and follow that up with still maintaining a calorie deficit in my diet.

My capabilities continue to improve.

I am assuming this puts me in the high willpower category.

For my next trick I learn to follow an organized routine every day.

Wish me luck boys.

There was a drama mod who I think had the screen name OhHamburgers. He ended up meeting his wife through r drama and they bonded over sharing racist sentiments (serious). She had his baby a year or two ago. It was an odd pairing because he was a city boy who ended up becoming a night time repairman and she was a very small town girl who ended up working in big tech. They kind of permenantly logged off after having a baby, from everything I've heard.

Does anyone have connections to updates on them?

I started smoking again a few days ago, I've been good mostly so far but woke up early this morning and couldn't help to light one up when I was putting on my boots outside my front door (mud covered). Feels like I just can't get it right, I'm poor with basically nothing to my name. At least I have my dog and weed, and my gf can shred on the washboard. Wonder what'll happen next, is that the spice of life?

You may have noticed that I didn't sperg my lane assist car video thing the last two Sunday evenings.

Well, I've really been putting my nose to the grindstone and getting some work done with it. Recorded the rest of the footage, even managed to install the darn mirror in the car and get it working again!

Isn't that exciting? Isn't it?

So now I have the video 95% completed. It's organized, trimmed, all I need to do is finalize the background music and record an outro.

Guess what?

I hate it.

I sound like an neurodivergent robot, the visuals are distracting, some parts go too fast, some too slow, and it's frontloaded with way too much

So I get to scrap it and try again, reusing as many assets as possible because holy shit I've been working on this for six months and have nothing to show for it. I do know that I'll move the 'print settings' to a separate video because really, how important is that for the average casual youtube boredbrowser?

I guess enjoy this "final failed draft" in its entirety. Idk.

!cemmenters !friendsofxirabolt !autismos

i've never been a social person because i've always been totally content riding solo instead of putting up with people and their endless bullshit. i'm not depressed, lonely, sad, anything i'm totally chill

She's beautiful. My chink in the (gay) armor. Anyone have anything they bought they're excited for post it.

The fricking cwowld metwl slid owor my skin like silk sliding dwown a fricking banyister. It dwoesn't take much pwessure wen u have a fricking sharp razwor. Bwood came pwouring immediatewy. That's a fricking gwood sign - the fricking deep cuts are fricking bwight white and take a fricking minyute two start bleeding. I am onye with the fricking pain because I deserve it fwor being worthless and a fricking piece of shit and a fricking bad perswon.

Am I bwoken that my mind cwonstantwy instwucts mwe two self-mutilate, b-word? It feels like there's a fricking gwoblin in my head (the Gwueswome Gwoblin) cwonstantwy egging mwe on two dwo the fricking nyeedfwl and start slicing. Can anyonye relate, b-word? I knyow I'm gwoing two dwo it again twomworwow and it's gwoing two be wose. The fricking cycle's begun again.

Big tobacco wants to give you the illusion that you can control your smoking by quitting any time with the aid of gums/lozenges. This is false. They will tell you to choose gums based on your daily number of cigarettes and in most cases people revert back to smoking when they are very tensed and want a quick hit instead of a slow release.

Break the cycle.

If you are a smoker or you know someone who is trying to quit, here's what you need to do.

1. Find out how many cigarettes you smoke daily.

2. Find out the approximate strength of the nicotine gums suited for you.

3. Find the nicotine gum one strength higher than what is suited for you. If you smoke 7 cigarettes daily and are told to take 2mg nicotine gums, go for the 4mg ones (which are for people who smoke 20+ in a day)

Your body will react violently to this overload of nicotine. Remember how I said people want a quick fix and not a slow release. The avalanche of nicotine from a 4mg taken by someone who should be taking 2mg will be equivalent to that quick fix plus a lot more. You will get physically sick by that overstimulation. Which is the point. To make your body see nicotine as an unfriendly stimulator. Over time, you'll become more and more cautious when you should take another gum. You can't take it just after lunch, you might throw up. Same thing after cardio. Your mind craves it but your body rejects it, so neither your intake not your toleration will increase.

Start today:

Take 2 4mg gums together right now and report back in an hour.

!nicotine !r-slurs

Got the bandages ready. It might be a pretty bloody night tonight.

Here's my fit rn leaving in 20 minutes

Should I do doordash poll

Was making corn beer in my pjs, had no pants pockets so I put it in my breast, bent over to stir a bucket and PLOP.

It still more or less works after a bunch of cleanings. Only issues have been it thinking I had wired headphones plugged in all the time.

!boozers learn from me

So she was a like a proper 8.5/10. I mean absolutely gorgeous except she was insecure about her condition which made her go overboard in her clothing and makeup choices, which is why I reduced 1.5 points. I was head over heels for her the moment I laid my eyes (😂) on her. Pretty soon we were talking, we were helping each other out with our studies and literally everyone knew within a month that we liked each other. Both of us were present for each other everywhere. Charades? We are on the same team. Group project? We're on same group.

If some random baseball match was going on, I would ask her who she would support based on the logos and then we would support them. It was so good.

Oh and she was fricking amazing in bed too.

Unfortunately nothing good lasts, and within 6 months we broke up.

See, all of the guys I have been friends with were pretty cool with her but one guy (let's call him Y) was too edgy. Whenever my ex (let's call her X) wasn't around, he would tell me to shake his hand or grab his wrist, and as I went for it he would look at the dude next to me and shout, guess who I am. I am X!! It's pretty funny in retrospect 😂 but I didn't find it funny then, although to be fair I didn't explode in anger and go full m'lady's honor on him too.

Anyway, matters started deteriorating soon, as I understood X wanted me to commit to her forever. She had created alternate timelines in her head and would spend hours daydreaming and telling me what school our kids would go to, which house we should buy etc etc. That she had told her parents about me and how awesome I am, why haven't I told my parents about how awesome she is. It's pretty cute to listen to that for 5 minutes, not for hours. And it's unbearable to listen to that chick shit constantly for days. And her style and fashion choices too started to grate on me. It was gaudy and garish as frick.

One example would be where we were going to hike a small hill during fall and the temperature would be expected to have dropped at the most to 40-50 degrees. There were 6 guys and 5 girls. We all had either a sweatsuit, or a light jacket or just a plain sweater on top of our shirts.

She had an exotic fur overcoat with a Dolce and Gabbana big butt belt and boots that looked like it was made for a SS officer rather than for hiking. Not only me, but literally everyone in our group was embarassed of her as we passed other hiking groups. Who's gonna tell her she looks like a jackass? Y even came up to me at one point and asked me "bro are you sure she can look at the mirror correctly?" Even I laughed.

Anyway since we spent so much time together, it didn't take her long before she realized I was pulling away from her. She tried to confront me about it once or twice but I just brushed her off saying we do a lot of things together and she's overthinking. But it was true. It was tiring to be with her. She simultaneously wanted to do the most classic girly stuff and yet wanted me to see her as "not like other girls".

Anyway, I won't go into the details, but finally I came out of the closet of dead relationships and told her yes I miss being single. She immediately threw a violent fit, breaking almost everything. I grabbed my laptop and phone and watched her in amusement breaking and wrecking everything. She broke her own laptop and phone and printer. She burnt all my class notes (😂😂😂) and threw the photo I had of my brother at my head. It missed by a large margin.

That was the last straw. I burst out laughing and told her (still grabbing my laptop and phone) "is there a reason why your aim is so poor". She just stared at me for a second and then sat down on the floor wailing, crying herself to bits. In between her sobs she yelled nonsense made up slurs at me (I still don't know what a kangaroo legged son of a b-word means 😂😂😂).

I realized this is my chance, grabbed whatever remained salvageable, went down to the landlord (he was already on the stairway), told him I would cover the next 3 months rent (the lease was ending after 3 months) even though I'm not going to be staying there anymore and moved in with the boys in another apartment.

Although while she was crying, I stayed on the hallway with all my stuff keeping an eye on her so that she doesn't try to commit suicide or do something stupid and called all of her friends. 2 of whom came within half an hour at which point I bailed. If she found a scissor or something and aimed it at the wall, it might actually blind or go in my neck who tf knows.

For the remaining 1 year and 2 or 3 months she didn't say a single word to me. She didn't tell anyone what I had said to her that day that made her cry but it was a great hit among the guys when I told it, quite frequently, at house parties.

That still is the funniest way I have ever broken up with somebody.

!r-slurs and !male feminists what's the funniest way you have dumped or been dumped by someone?

@Aevann please sir effortpost. My thumbs are sore.

Alright so I just got expelled from school https://t.co/IVQivqDoLt

— 🤑🦍🟩⬜🟩TheNIGGAryan🤰🏻🔫👨🏿🗣️🔥 (@AntiHateComms) April 26, 2024

I am back home from getting my abcess drain removed. Feels like I need a Norco, !druggies lmao. Luckily I have plenty. There was only one painful part of the no prep, no pain med surgical removal, but I'll be able to work in about a week and a half again. Gotta make that money ASAP after feeding my Roth IRA as much as it's fat maw could take.

Feminine medicine is a world apart from what I thought it would be entering my 30th year. Most of my initial doctors on this case, which was caused by abnormal streptococcus infection and nothing more, were assuming up and down that I had caught an STD to cause this orange-sized tubo-ovarian abcess. But big shocker, I stand with my bf and he stands with me, we'd never waste this relationship on affairs

Want to hear REAL drama? Even my father assumed I had caught something more.... shameful, shall we say? It's completely driven my mom into a frenzy. He and I've hashed it out with no issue though

Anyway, I pray for a speedy recovery, and I urge anyone reading this to please consider seeing their physical pain as more serious than, "I need to take a sick day." If my abcess had burst, it would have been a 100% fatality

Also, I goombled !goomblers my online pittance away while in the hospital for 4 days, please up or down vote so that I may continue my degenerative coin farming venture

!male feminists what's your favorite drink?